Relationship or Couples Issues in East Davis, California? Davis, CA Couples Counselor – find a Counselor who can Help you Find Intimacy and Connection Again

I’d like to introduce you to Diane Simon, LMFT, a dedicated and caring, highly qualified and experienced EMDR therapist in East Davis, CA. She specializes in treating relationship issues couples face.  I keep meeting her at valuable trainings around the state, including today in La Jolla taught by Katie O’Shea.

We are learning a wonderful, effective, safe and efficient way to help people with their emotions, including fear, sadness, depression, anxiety, and many, many more.  This approach, using EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing psychotherapy) helps couple to resolve disturbing past experiences, especially those that happened early in their lives, that may be the cause of current relationship difficulties.  Yes, current issues are important too.  But past difficulties or lack of nurturing almost seem to set us up for failure. O’Shea’s method allows us to heal.  We can learn that emotions serve us, can come and go easily, and not be problems in our relationships.

Diane is EMDRIA Certified in EMDR and can help you to learn this way to live with your emotions, and hence become more comfortable together in your relationship.  Please link below to find the Davis, CA page and the link to Diane’s profile.  Give her a call in Davis and get going today.

East Davis, CA Page on



“Shoot First” is a sad attempt to prevent trauma or death

Rethinking Florida’s “Shoot First” Law

We live in an instant gratification society.  People don’t take the necessary time to think or talk things through.  Some college roommates argue by sitting side by side at their desks, texting the conflict.  Some don’t know how to turn, face each other and share directly.  I’ve heard the report of a man learning of his girlfriend’s affair through a Facebook boast by the new boyfriend.  In Florida we have people scared that they might be attacked, shooting quickly, with fatal results.  And now in California, we have a producer of an inflammatory video about the Prophet Mohammed who has caused great aggravation to Muslims, resulting in the death of our ambassador to Libya, Christopher Stevens yesterday, September 12, 2012.


As EMDR Trauma therapists, we deal with the aftermath, all the loss, grief and pain that got “sprayed” by the bullets.  I treat trauma survivors, which may include survivors, family members or witnesses.  In an excellent documentary called “EMDR” a college professor said, “If you don’t transform pain, you transmit it.”  EMDR is a research validated way to efficiently transform pain and trauma.  I am concerned the “Shoot First” law Florida will transmit more and more pain and trauma.

To learn more about how EMDR can help with the pain of traumas and tragedies, please visit our website:

Floridians, please rethink this law.  I can understand the frustration that went into it, but there are better solutions.

In addition to being a therapist, I have been a self-defense instructor.  That training is excellent, and could be given to every high school student, especially if it also gives the skills for psychological defense against psychological assault/bullying/gossip (or whatever you want to call it).  When people feel confident in their physical and assertive skills, they can see problems coming and avoid or overcome them.  This is just one suggestion.

Travon Martin did not need to die.  Please correct the situation with a better solution to an important problem.  Let us prevent more people in ordinary life from suffering extraordinary, early death.  I understand the law was an attempt to do that.  But we can and must do better.  Best wishes to Florida in doing so.

Innovative Eating Disorder Treatment in Encinitas and Rancho Santa Fe

Author:  Susie Morgan, MA, MA, LMFT

Posted and Edited by:  Dana Terrell, LCSW

I find remarkable efficacy in treating the compulsive behaviors that are often integral to Eating Disorders through a modified EMDR method called the Feeling State Addiction Protocol (FSAP).  The initial research on the FSAP, by Dr. Robert Miller, is promising, and more research is needed.

If you wish, please link to full article in printable form on (it includes a photo of Susie).

                                                                  Susie’s full article with photo

The FSAP works from the theory that addictions and compulsions are often birthed in the moment when a person experiences an intensely desired positive feeling while engaging in a certain behavior.  The fireworks that are experienced in that moment are the result of the behavior eliciting the sensation that a pre-existing need has been profoundly met.  For instance, a child being deprived of love and safety in a neglectful home finds the only comfort available in sneaking ice cream, or a teen being ostracized by peers experiences a wave of superiority as she feels the bony edges of her hips, which to her represent ideal thinness.

The experience of the positive “feeling state” is so potent because of the person’s specific history and emotional/relational vulnerability.  When the positive feeling state is paired with the behavior, it is as if the two become neurologically welded together.  Subsequently, a person will compulsively seek to recreate that feeling state by engaging in the behavior (e.g. overeating or restricting), often at great cost and despite white-knuckled effort to change.

The FSAP appears to break this neurological bonding, in a similar manner to the way in which standard EMDR breaks up the “stuck” traumatic memory.  As the intensity of the bond between the feeling state and the behavior lessens, clients find that their urges and cravings to engage in their anorexic or bulimic behaviors diminish and even disappear.

Often, this process brings the person’s original vulnerability to the surface, as it can no longer be numbed or hidden with the compulsive behavior.  The standard EMDR Protocol can then be used to resolve the underlying painful experiences that created the felt “need” for the Eating Disorder in the first place.

Editor’s note:  Susie Morgan is an EMDR Therapist and EMDRIA-Approved Consultant who treats Eating Disorders in her comfortable office at the border of Encinitas and Rancho Santa Fe in San Diego County.

To connect with Susie, please link to her Profile Page on

Counseling Children and Teens in San Diego, Hillcrest and Ocean Beach

Author:  Deborah Nielsen, LMFT, Certified EMDR Therapist

Effective counseling for children involves developmental insight and being able to meet a child where he or she is. On the surface, children may appear to have stress-free lives. Children tend to exhibit anxiety and depression differently than adults. Children may not articulate their feelings as much as they show a change in attitude or behavior.

Providing a safe atmosphere for expression and exploration is how I start counseling with children. Building on strengths and self esteem brings progress. Family involvement is important. I incorporate therapeutic arts, play and EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, described more no the website below), and find that some combination of these elements will allow a child to move forward.

I work with children of all ages. Adolescents are on the bridge between childhood and adulthood. This is a complex time which can be confusing and overwhelming. I may incorporate journaling and role playing for teens. I find that teens and children alike often respond rapidly to EMDR.

Editor’s Note:  Deborah Nielsen’s offices are in Ocean Beach and Hillcrest.

 To learn more about EMDR and Deborah Nielsen, link to her profile page on:

3 Steps to Take in Los Angeles when Life gets Overwhelming

Feeling overwhelmed?  Life giving you too much crisis, stress, loss, disappointment or frustration lately?  Want to push the “Stop” button? Here are helpful suggestions:

  1. Take time off to regain stability and get clear on your priorities.  A few days, or even a day or a half day can help.
  2. Say “no” to everything extra you can until life settles down.
  3. Get EMDR therapy for recent events to get back your best functioning.  This will help you to make better decisions for yourself and those who count on you.  It may only take one to three sessions.

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) has been validated by more than 20 years of research to help with stress, trauma and crisis large or small, old or recent, that leave one feeling stuck.  There are researched EMDR protocols tailored for recent events.  The Standard Protocol is proven for traumas over a few months old (even if decades old such as war combat trauma or molestation).

To find a counselor  in Los Angeles Certified in EMDR, please link to the Los Angeles Directory on

3 things to do in Seattle when Life Gets Overwhelming

Has life been giving you too much stress, loss, crisis, disappointment, etc. lately?  Do you want to push the “Stop” button? Here are helpful ways you might do just that:

  1. Take a day (or days) off to regain stability and get clear on your priorities
  2. Say “no” to everything you can until life settles down.
  3. Get EMDR therapy for recent events to get back your clarity.  This can enable you to make good decisions for yourself and those who count on you.  It may only take one to three sessions.

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) has been validated by more than 20 years of research to help with traumas or stresses large and small, old or recent, that leave one feeling stuck.  There are researched EMDR protocols that are tailored for recent events.  The standard protocol is proven for traumas over a few months old, even if decades old.

To find a counselor  in Seattle Certified in EMDR, please link to the Seattle Directory on

Counseling Help for Panic in Newport Beach

Lois Bregman, LCSW, is a very capable and experienced therapist who can help with Anxiety Disorders such as Panic or PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder).  She has been a Certified EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) Therapist, training Facilitator, and Approved Consultant to help other therapists become Certified.

Please check out her profile page on

Lois Bregman, LCSW, AC

EMDR Movie, a Documentary by Michael Burns, reviewed by Vista Counselor Belle Hazelhurst

“I am a psychotherapist practicing since 1990 and utilizing EMDR since my first training in 1995.
This documentary is an excellent overview of the history, research, and profound healing potential of this very gracious healing modality. Michael Burns has done a very thorough and compelling review, interviewing numerous researchers and professionals in the field, along with interviewing clients.
He weaves into the narrative beautiful stories of deep healing with individuals and children who have lived through overwhelming trauma and had the good fortune of finding their way to competent EMDR therapists who assisted them to find their way back to health, balance, and wholeness again.
The film lasts just over an hour and was quite captivating and interesting the entire time. I will definitely be utilizing this film to further educate and introduce clients to the power of EMDR. It is my hope that this film will reach a larger audience so that more people will become aware of this amazingly respectful and deep potential for (often quickly) moving people from pain and suffering into healing and freedom. Thank you, Michael Burns, for this beautiful piece of work and your part in spreading this information out to the world in a larger way.”
About Belle:  She is a talented therapist who first introduced me to EMDR in 1997 when I needed to overcome the fear of starting a private practice.  She did such a great job that my fear was overcome in 2 sessions.  I immediately wanted to become an EMDR therapist.  Her office in Vista, CA is good for people in North County Coastal communities. — Dana Terrell, LCSW, EAC
To link to a profile for Belle Hazlehurst, RN, MFT, please click on her name.

Seattle Counselor for Stress, Grief and Loss: Victoria Claravall

 Victoria Claravall is an EMDR Therapist in Seattle

Victoria can help with Stress, Trauma, even PTSD, Grief/Loss, whether it just involves you, or your relationship or even the whole family.  To learn more about her and her services, please see her listing on our local web directory for Certified EMDR Therapists:

Victoria’s Seattle Profile Page

North Seattle Counselor Offers Help with Infertility Coping and Resolution

Denise Sterchi is an EMDR Therapist in North Seattle

She has much experience helping people with Infertility Coping and Resolution, self-esteem issues, depression, anxiety, assertiveness.  To learn more about her services, check out her listing on our local web resource for Certified EMDR therapists:

North Seattle residents:  Link here to Denise Sterchi’s profile page