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EMDR and My Financial Avoidance

Many years ago I had a bankruptcy, foreclosure and loss of two parents within a six month period. It spiraled me into a situation that required some medication for a couple of years.

After that, I was overwhelmed any time I saw bills in the mail. Anything from the IRS was so terrifying that I often didn’t check my mailbox for a month or two, and then wouldn’t open my mail. Years went by without filing tax returns because of my avoidance issues.

Finally a friend of mine suggested I see a therapist skilled in EMDR. With EMDR, I started noticing very quick results. In our history-taking work I discovered that my challenges with financial matters were accumulating much before the actual bankruptcy. These issues took more sessions, however it all worked wonderfully.

Now I no longer have fear to open mail, do financial planning, and even talk to the IRS. I have filed over a decade of past tax returns, and am finally getting back into integrity with all my financial affairs.

My life is much more at ease and peaceful. My therapist also recommend that I go to Debtors Anonymous. Though I truly resisted it, I found I was not alone in my resistance to face financial problems. Even though I have healed most of my avoidance issues, I continue to go to DA because it’s a good constant reminder, and it feels good to be supportive of others.

EMDR is a powerfully effective method and I tell my friends about it. From what I understand, it is a way to engage both the right and left side of the brain during the therapy process. This boosts the effectiveness many times over since its not just an intellectual exercise. I recommend you try just two or three sessions and I’ll bet you’ll be amazed at how fast it works. I think in two sessions it cleared my long-unresolved sadness over the death of one of my parents.